SLUT

Recently I’ve been challenging my thoughts and feelings in regards to ‘women’s rights’.

This subject is so vast but my particular issue lies with scantily clad women in the public domain… allow me to try to explain, although I’m still pondering.

Okay, women should have the same rights as men and in general we should be able to do the same. But I do accept that our bodies and minds can be very different and one sex can be better at another job/task/activity than the other. For example, my partner is far stronger than I, yet I believe we would both agree that I make a better spag bol! But that’s okay and accepting our strengths and weaknesses surely makes for a better way of life? The best person for the job, is the one who should do it.

I think this issue comes down to respect, to accept that all humans are good at different things and we should be allowed to embrace our talents and skills within society without being judged, criticised, insulted or bullied just because of our gender.

However, I still feel incredibly uncomfortable seeing women in scantily clad clothing, parading their bodies around like objects to gain attention or to receive money for doing it. I get frustrated that women (although consenting to what they are doing) are displaying themselves as an object. I feel sad to think of the women who have fought for us to be free from that glass cabinet and to be treated as an equal to men through our minds, speech and strength. We aren’t little china dolls and I hate seeing some women being treated like one. But on the other hand I do accept its their right to do what they want and looking pretty may be their talent. It’s a weird one and I can’t quite understand my thoughts on this… maybe I’m just old-fashioned and a prude who needs to get with the times!

What are your thoughts on this?

Slut shaming is another one I struggle with… If a woman is acting like a slut, then she shouldn’t be offended if she is called one. However, when someone isn’t and still being labelled a slut, that isn’t fair. Logical. But I feel there’s a fine line and this goes back to what I said earlier regarding women in scantily clad clothing…

Young girls are seeing half-naked women in adverts and magazines (some of whom are sluts and this is confusing the un-sluts, with the sluts, nevertheless all being tarred under the same brush) and society is hinting at young women to look and act a certain way to gain ‘acceptance’. Young boys are seeing this too and expecting females to be a particular way, as objects, not as functional humans with working brains. This way of thinking and living is toxic, it’s breeding an unhealthy future for females and males. Western cultural expectations are ramping up the pressure on younger generations to be something and act in a way that is not age appropriate. The word ‘SLUT’ is being branded around by youngsters and this is worrying. I know I would have taken ‘suggestive’ selfies as a young teenager because I know my friends would have been doing it too, I probably would have been called a slut too and this would have devastated me. Like others I would have been following the social norms like my ‘peers’ and friends. By definition I would not be a slut, but by social constructs I would be.

It must be tough as a teenager on the Internet and in society, I really feel for the younger generations as it must be so confusing, upsetting and controlling.

I diverted on this post a little but had some important points to share. Thank you for reading.

– Victoria

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